You’re never going to wish that you kept putting yourself in the emotional line of fire.You’re never going to regret getting off the f*cktard ferris wheel and you’re never going to regret you out of your dysfunction instead of keeping you immersed in the quicksand. (kind of funny that John Mayer wrote it but I love his music so whatev).

The time, the effort that I see you put in pays off. I couldn’t have gotten this far in my healing without my therapist and you!!! You have been the one to provide truth and clarity and a guidance on how to move forward. ❤ Brought me to tears and empowered me all at once.

A few months ago, I was talking to my friend David Kessler, telling him that I couldn’t believe how a particular person in my life knew what buttons to push that would drive me over the edge. of relationship with your Father or a significant male figure from your childhood.

“How do they know how to get under my skin and push my buttons? “It’s not who pushes your buttons, it’s who programmed you.” A Light-Bulb-Moment-WHOA-“aha! Since it’s Father’s Day today, this whole week I’ve been thinking about my own daddy issues, how they’ve affected me, why they’ve haunted me for so long and really, why the hell I even had such deep daddy issues in the first place when I have a Dad that’s consistently been nothing short of amazing. This becomes an addictive pattern because it creates this feeling of comfort due to the familiarity but also creates a perpetual underlying feeling of dis-ease in your relationships.

She convinces herself that he’ll change and scares herself into the submission of believing that if she lets him go, he’ll combust into the man of her dreams with another, “better” girl.

If you have a dad that’s present, celebrate him today and if you don’t have a dad, father yourself by making the promise that you’re not going to be at the end of your life years from now saying “I see it all now. ” You’re never going to be at the end of your life one day, wishing that you got hurt and devalued more.